Forgiveness in Relationships

Feb 15, 2015

It’s interesting that Valentines Day usually opens a door to greater intimacy with Donna and myself but also opens a door to greater vulnerability, fear and need to protect with projection of upset which is an incredible temptation to go into the blame game.

When I pause for a moment, I’m reminded of Jesus telling us repeatedly to Judge not …and Forgive as we are Forgiven Jesus was instructing us in the path of humility and compassion for others and ourselves. This is what he meant when he said “Come unto me, all ye that labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest … for ‘my yoke is easy and my burden is light’ (Matthew 11:29, 30)

The Course (ACIM) also repeatedly reminds us that to condemn others with attack thoughts is to condemn ourselves. I’m always amazed at myself how easily it is to project and put the blame on others especially those close to me. I’m also amaze when I use tools such as Byron Kate or Radical Forgiveness the upset is always something I’m upset more about with myself..

The course mentions that whenever you are triggered to interrupt your habitual judgmental thought system by saying to yourself “God is the Love in which I forgive you” and continue with “God is the Love in which I forgive myself” (Lesson 46).

In saying this I’m also amazed how much I experience an incredible release and relief of an energetic burden that I had been carrying. When I forgive others I am literally releasing a burden from myself.

I’ve been studying the Course for several years and it always amazes me that a simple statement when said in earnest can have such a powerful impact.

Blessings Everyone for self and other forgiveness.
May everyone’s burden be light.